Why Say, “Everything Will Work Out?”

I realize you have not peered into my life over the last 7 years, or really, ever.  Chances are you might not ever meet me in person; I hope that’s not the case.  And the probability of us sharing the same journey experiences is slim to nil.  However, there is one common statement that most of us have said or heard during a crucible that troubles me.  What is this statement?  “Everything will work out” is the ubiquitous statement that resonates with Christians and non-Christian people alike during trying times.

The year was 2003 and I had just come through a major surgery.  I was home recovering when I received a call from my boss who was checking on my recovery.  “How wonderful,” I thought.    But no more than a few sentences later, she cautiously informed me that my job had been eliminated and I could take my time recovering.  Before she hung up the phone, she said, “Everything will work out.“  “Goodbye.”  And so I moved on.  It took me two years to complete my bachelor’s degree and find my next job.

In 2005, I landed a position that segue my career to what I thought would be a more stable profession.  The tides were still turning on the career front and a year later, my job was eliminated.  This was my second job loss.   The words from the person announcing the layoff still reverberate in my ears, “We appreciate all your hard work.  If we ever restore this function in the company, you are welcome to reapply.”  And of course, the proverbial statement came with closure, “Everything will work out.”  I wasn’t too devastated this time because I had been through a layoff before.  I was prepared emotionally this time.  Plus, I was in the middle of my master’s program and was enjoying the extra time to focus on my studies.

In 2006, my husband decided to accept a job in Houston, TX.  The timing was fortuitous because I didn’t work and my graduate program was nearly complete.  He moved to Houston and 4 months later I joined him.  It took me 4 months to find a job.  In December 2006, I started working again in a profession that was all new to me.  The job was offered to me because I asked the manager to give me a chance.  In exchange for on-the-job training, I offered some great transferable skills and experiences that would be valuable to the job. She agreed and hired me.  It was 6 months into the job that I completed my master’s program.  However, 6 months later, I voluntarily left the position for an opportunity of my first love and passion.

It is now 2007 and I am working on a job of my first love and passion.  The job is going fabulous until 4 months into the position when I learned the group had to produce a business case to justify its existence.  Justification of our group was easy, getting it approved was daunting.  During my seventh month on the job, it was quite clear that our work had come to a halt and our jobs were soon to be eradicated.  I heard that troubling statement again, “Everything will work out.”  This time my response was, “Will it?”  Fortunately for me, I found a different job just in the nick of time.

In 2008, I began working on my 5th job within a 6-year time period.  “Unbelievable,” I said.  “Five jobs in 6 years.”  The job transiency was not over because after 9 months, I learned again that my job would be eliminated.  And it was!  I celebrated my 10th month of employment with a raise, bonus, and the “pink slip.”  My job was eliminated after 10 months at this company.  “This is a set-up,” I thought.  “Who would ever believe my story?”  And to add insult to injury, my boss felt compelled to tell me that, “Everything will work out.”

In November 2009, my husband and I launched a ministry called Disgrace To His Grace.  The ministry focuses on a journey we believe people take in life, those who walk with JESUS CHRIST and those who will walk with HIM experiences.  We were given an opportunity to share it in November 2009 and again in December 2009.

In March 2010, I was enjoying a leisurely Saturday evening when out of nowhere, I was in severe pain that would not go away.  Five days later, I was in the emergency room going through a battery of tests.  After several tests in the emergency room and subsequent more through my 2 doctors, my prognosis landed me facing the “C” disease and recommendations from 4 doctors to have surgery immediately.  There were many prayers offered on my behalf and many good people reminding me that “Everything will work out.”  What a struggle it was hearing those words.  I’ll be honest and say, “I battle hearing them on a regular basis.”  I had to cancel all of my speaking engagements due to my health.

Today, May 2010, my world is dramatically different from what it was in 2003.  I am still unemployed and have been for over a year.  My time is spent in the house 5 of 7 days a week; I go to church twice a week. I don’t have transportation so I rely on my mom and husband to assist me with errands. My health has improved as it turns out I didn’t have cancer.  I have resumed working on the ministry from my home and landed 2 speaking engagements.

Will everything work out?  That is what I’ve been hearing for 7 years.  “Everything will work out.“  Here’s my response to this troubling statement, “I can’t be certain whether everything will work out because my expectations for a favorable outcome has proven to be different from God’s will.  And therefore, I am not certain everything will work out through my eyes and my desires.  But I am most certain that ‘everything will work out’ according to God’s perfect will.  His will is good.  It is holy.  It is righteous.”  Romans 8:28 states, “All things work together for good to those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose.”  Track the emphasis in this verse, “things work out according to His purpose”.  Again, “things work out according to His purpose” and not according to our purpose or desire.  I’m a living witness that everything will not always work out from our perspective.  “Things” work out according to God’s purpose for our life.  He’s in control.

Next time, let’s talk about Trusting God.